We recently posted up a live video on Our Facebook page with the title “Big Announcement” and people were making guesses before we even got to the good part. “إنها حامل!” with a reply shortly after “What? who is pregnant?”
Of course our pals and family always ask us: “When are you men going to have kids?” and numerous readers ask us “What if you have kids? how could you travel then?”
Well the truth is, at this time we have no plans to have a baby and the announcement was actually about travel! If we did decide to go down that path, it wouldn’t end our travelling lifestyle, it’s just not something we want in our lives best now.
Will We ever have Kids?
We have always been the type of people who live by the “never say never” philosophy, so even though we don’t see any children in our future, that could always change. Our life is an open road and we don’t allow speed bumps and stop signs to keep us from turning whichever way we please.
If we all of a sudden feel the overwhelming urge to have a child, then our entire minds may change all of a sudden and we might just opt for it. It would just be another fantastic adventure and one that we couldn’t possibly understand until we experienced it.
Our life is always susceptible to enormous change. before we started travelling, we had just recently purchased and furnished a condominium, thinking that would be our life plan… but things changed rapidly and soon we sold everything and left on a year long trip.
We never really “planned” to instruct English in China. We got the idea after volunteering in Myanmar and while we were travelling in China we just chose to answer an ad on a hostel wall and voila.
We love that our life is full of spontaneity and excitement and while a kid would require some advanced planning, we are not fully against it, but at this time we just don’t see it.
What if we did have kids? would we still travel?
قطعاً. 100%. Our lifestyle would not change entirely just because we had a kid. I can hear the comments at the bottom of this post already. “You can’t travel with kids full-time!” “They need to go to school!”, “Children need normality and routine”, “What about their education?!”.
Those are all valid points to be made, but we strongly believe that the road is the best school for a child. Of course, people can disagree with that idea. everyone is totally free to have their own opinion. Our opinion is that children learn much more from cultural immersion and world exploration than they ever could from books and classrooms.
We didn’t always think this way. before we started travelling I thought that all kids ought to be in front of a teacher 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. but travel has taught me something. في الواقع لا. fantastic parents who travel with their kids have taught me something. children can flourish in a travelling environment too.
If you follow inspiring travel blogs like TravelWithBender.com and yTravelBlog.com, you’ll start to realize that children can flourish in a nomadic lifestyle. They can stimulate parts of their brains that they would never use at home and focus on things that they are good at, rather than being forced to change from classroom to classroom, despite having apparent talent in one area.
We met a couple who currently live in Grenada, but have also lived in numerous different parts of the world. A kind of nomadic family. Their children were all home schooled from a young age and their oldest daughter is a testament to how fantastic this can be for kids. She is bright, articulate, sociable, intelligent and extremely mature.
If we were to have kids, they would stay on the road with us. They would of course learn the basics of math, language, science and history, but they would be encouraged to spend much more time on studies that they’re passionate about.
The unschooling method is becoming much more and much more popular and people are finally starting to see the defects in conventional schools. When I was a kid, I was outstanding at english, photography and visual arts media (video editing), yet I spent far more time learning science, math, law, history and social studies.
Luckily, after school I eventually found my way back to my passion. I now write, take photos and create videos for a living. had I spent twice as much time learning about those subjects in school however, I probably would have figured this all out much sooner and would likely also be much much more skilled in these fields than I am today.
If we ever have kids, they will be taught on the road. They will be introduced to the world. I wouldn’t say to them: “You know that kids in Africa are very hungراي وأنت لا تأكل الخضروات الخاصة بك “. أود أن أريهم.
لن أضطر إلى الإشارة إلى أهرامات الجيزة في كتاب النص ، أو أوجههم إلى العبودية في منطقة البحر الكاريبي من الأفلام الوثائقية والصور الفوتوغرافية ، وأود أن أحضرهم إلى هناك وأكون جزءًا من التاريخ معهم ، بينما أظهر لهم كيف ليعيشوا حياتهم بشكل أفضل في المستقبل.
نعم … سيكون أطفالنا دنيويين وسيظلون يسافرون معهم. سيكون مجرد نوع مختلف من السفر ونوع مختلف من المغامرة.
لماذا لا نريد الأطفال؟
ليس الأمر أننا لا نحب الأطفال. أنا احب الأطفال.
حسنًا … عندما لا أكون في مركز تجاري أو طائرة أو فندق أو مطعم أو شاطئ أو بار مع بعض الطاغية الصغيرة التي تصرخ وتتجول في المكان …
لكن بشكل عام ، أحب الأطفال الذين يتصرفون جيدًا.
لديّ 3 بنات صغيرة مذهلة ، وعلى الرغم من أنني لا أتمكن من رؤيتها بما يكفي تقريبًا ، إلا أنني أحب قضاء بعض الوقت معهم. إنهم أحبة ويجعلونني دائمًا أبتسم.
عندما قمنا بتدريس اللغة الإنجليزية في الصين ، بغض النظر عن مدى استنفادنا أو غضبنا ، فقد كنا في الصباح ، بمجرد أن رأينا وجوه طلابنا الصغار المبتسمين ، كنا نبتسم معهم. كنا نضحك معهم ونلعب معهم ولديهم وقت رائع.
فلماذا لا نريد الأطفال؟
الآن ، نحن نحب قضاء الوقت مع بعضنا البعض. بالطبع ، لم أستطع أبدًا التفكير في الحب الذي يمتلكه أحد الوالدين لطفله ، لكن في هذا الوقت أشعر بالرضا عن الحب الذي لديّ Dariece ولن أرغب في قضاء لحظة بعيدًا عن ذلك.
نحن نحب قضاء الوقت مع بناتنا. لكننا نحب أيضًا أن نعيدهم إلى أخي بعد يوم من مجالسة الأطفال. نحن نحب أن نتمكن دائمًا من العودة إلى السلام والهدوء مع بعضنا البعض.
نحن نحب أيضًا أن نكون قادرين على أن نكون عفويين ، والحرية في فعل ما نريد … على نزوة.
ختاماً
الآن نحن لا نخطط فقط لإنجاب أطفال. لذا استقال يسألنا! هاها. نحن نحب الأطفال ، لن ندعهم يغيرون حياتنا ، ونحن نعتقد أن الأطفال يزدهرون على الطريق ، لكننا نريد فقط أن نكون مع بعضنا البعض في الوقت الحالي. ربما هذا سوف يتغير أسفل الطريق. ربما لا.
إنه لأمر مضحك أن يسمى ذرية الماعز الأطفال أيضًا. ربما سنقوم فقط بشراء ماعز طفل ونكتب مقالًا قصيرًا بعنوان “كان لدينا طفل!” ربما سنوفر هذا واحد في 1 أبريل 2017.
ما رأيك؟ هل تريد اطفال؟ هل لديك أولاد؟ هل تسافر معهم من قبل بدوام كامل؟
هل أعجبتك هذه التدوينة؟ دبوس!
إخلاء المسئولية: الماعز على الطريق هو مشارك في الأمازون وأيضًا تابعة لبعض تجار التجزئة الآخرين. هذا يعني أننا نربح عمولات إذا قمت بالنقر فوق روابط على مدونتنا وشراء من تجار التجزئة هؤلاء.
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